Posted 19 December 2010 - 10:34 AM
Hmmm. I believe I had to learn to like seeing my query ripped apart because it was.....over and over and over and........ LOL.
I hadn't really given it much thought about whether I "liked" it or not. Some rip it apart, re-writing the entire thing. Some get out the red pen (Pete), some make short simple observations and some bloviate eighteen sentences in regard to their two word suggestion change.
Frankly, I appreciate them all. I do think when we are critiquing others we should be mindful that their project is just as important as we felt ours was. Don't treat it as a game. It is serious business.
Mary mentioned always trying to find something positive to say. While this feels good, it does nothing for me personally. I want it rough and I appreciate being told of each shortcoming. Others don't take critique so well and I understand this. In this regard, if I reading something by Pete Morin for example that I wanted to comment on, I know his style, I'm just gonna reach up and slap him. He can take it. If I am commenting on someone more sensative, I adjust my comments. If I don;t know their style, I stay generic.
With newbies, there is usually plenty to comment on. As someone mentioned earlier in thread, when somebody starts out announcing that they are new there will usually be a good bit to comment on. I can't see it as productive to -re-write their work at that time. That is too much..too soon! Mary's philosophy of pointing out positive things first at that point may be the right thing to do so as to make them understand that we are not their enemies.
When someone goes and starts a rant thread (Safari Tom) after only three days of being here and virtually no attempts to factor the suggestions made by more experienced folks here, well, that is different. It is time to slap him in the head (which Jean Oram so gracefully did), take him in for exorcism/de-tox and then see if he can be fixed. Some folks come here with an open mind, some come here with a chip. Very few know, when they log in for that first time what a precious FREE service they are about to recieve. I'm no expert, but my guess would be that they will fail the agent rejection process miserably also.
If you continue to think the way you've always thought, you will continue to get what you've always got!