Has anyone else come across the issue of trying to stay within the accepted 3 paragraph format of, hook, summary paragraph, bio & closing, all of which come to no more than 350 words, only to research some successful queries and find that they are the exact opposite? I mean that the successful ones are +500 words, 7+ paragraphs, and go into details you could never explain in the 350 word-limit.
I understand that a query is extremely subjective; some want it personalized, while others do not, some want other book comparisons while others just want the "meat & potatoes" of your plot and nothing more. I've had bad queries where I've gotten multiple requests for more chapters or full ms requests, and I've had great queries that only garner form rejections. Where do you draw the line at editing a query when everyone has a different opinion? Where one person who says it's polished and looks good, while another tears it apart pointing out their perceived flaws?
What are your thoughts?